Most people develop romantic feelings towards people and decide to date so that they can know each other better before marriage. This is what most cultures recommend as people will have an opportunity to learn about the character of the person they intend to marry. Also, some customs have no problem with intermarriages so long as they agree on the basic things. Nevertheless, in Halal dating, things are done differently. Things are done according to the rules that are set. Below are some of the rules set by the Islam.
It is an acceptable thing for people to develop strong feelings to other people. These feelings result to love and finally, people can get married after they have dated for some time. However, this is different in the Islamic religion. When you start developing feelings towards a person, you are supposed to marry them. If you feel that you are not yet ready to get married, you have to take time to fast and pray for the lustful feelings to go away.
The second rule is that you should do the right Taaruf. This is not similar to dating. It encourages people to marry before they date. This is because when you date someone for some time and get to know them, there are high chances of being hurt when the relationship fails. Hence, doing the right Taaruf means that you marry the person you have feeling for immediately.
If you wish to get married but lack the right person to marry, the right thing to do is ask for people to help you. Then, you draft a proposal in which you will include your biography. The people who are willing to help you will give this draft to a girl they like. The girl is also supposed to do the same.
If the proposal is accepted, you cannot be allowed to meet the girl alone. The only thing you should do is date her in Taaruf. Thus, you can only meet her in the presence of her family. This is where you can ask things you would like to know about that person. The time to do this is usually set by the girl and you.
If by the end of this time you will not have a match, you can decide to stop it. However, you have to ask for permission from your parents and she does the same. If her parents or yours do not allow it, you should stop the Taaruf. However, if you feel there is a match, you can ask permission from her parents.
Once you have passed all the steps that are required, you can now marry the girl you are interested in. You can now start to date after marriage. It is sweeter this way as you can do anything that you want. This is the recommended form of relationship in Islam.
Islam sets these rules to prevent people from committing sin against Allah. Also, they remain pure until marriage. Courting someone before marriage is a sin. You will have committed immorality and violated Allah rules. This means that you can be punished for breaking the rules.
It is an acceptable thing for people to develop strong feelings to other people. These feelings result to love and finally, people can get married after they have dated for some time. However, this is different in the Islamic religion. When you start developing feelings towards a person, you are supposed to marry them. If you feel that you are not yet ready to get married, you have to take time to fast and pray for the lustful feelings to go away.
The second rule is that you should do the right Taaruf. This is not similar to dating. It encourages people to marry before they date. This is because when you date someone for some time and get to know them, there are high chances of being hurt when the relationship fails. Hence, doing the right Taaruf means that you marry the person you have feeling for immediately.
If you wish to get married but lack the right person to marry, the right thing to do is ask for people to help you. Then, you draft a proposal in which you will include your biography. The people who are willing to help you will give this draft to a girl they like. The girl is also supposed to do the same.
If the proposal is accepted, you cannot be allowed to meet the girl alone. The only thing you should do is date her in Taaruf. Thus, you can only meet her in the presence of her family. This is where you can ask things you would like to know about that person. The time to do this is usually set by the girl and you.
If by the end of this time you will not have a match, you can decide to stop it. However, you have to ask for permission from your parents and she does the same. If her parents or yours do not allow it, you should stop the Taaruf. However, if you feel there is a match, you can ask permission from her parents.
Once you have passed all the steps that are required, you can now marry the girl you are interested in. You can now start to date after marriage. It is sweeter this way as you can do anything that you want. This is the recommended form of relationship in Islam.
Islam sets these rules to prevent people from committing sin against Allah. Also, they remain pure until marriage. Courting someone before marriage is a sin. You will have committed immorality and violated Allah rules. This means that you can be punished for breaking the rules.
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