Principles To Follow When Dating Muslims

By Ann Turner


Islam provides an elaborate path to courtship and marriage for its adherents. The guide for dating Muslims applies to those meeting over the internet and those who meet one on one. The Quran provides punishment for people who violate these rules. Beyond the community punishing them, Allah will strike them severely for defiance. This punishment is worse and should be avoided by following laid principles.

Islam recognizes that people fall in love. In fact, religious teachings encourage people to love each other and also extend the love to all creations. The principles used during courtship are designed to protect the persons involved from hurt and the society from broken or dysfunctional marriages. This is why the Quran remains the central point of focus in every facet of the relationship, engagement, premarital sex and marriage.

There is no restriction on where people can meet and how they fall in love. The traditional society involved people living together. They were introduced by relatives and parents after thorough evaluation of their history. They could be monitored and their behaviors were known. This made courtship easy and was certain to lead to marriage.

As people disperse and people desire to make personal decisions on marriage, online dating takes root. It is embraced because people no longer live in exclusive societies. It also gives people an opportunity meet partners from other countries or cities. This is not a reason to break any of the courtship rules. Meetings that have their genesis on the internet must also remain within the principles set in the Quran.

The principle rule of courtship is that the partners must never be found in the same room or space without a chaperon. This seclusion is deemed dangerous because it exposes the couple to temptations of sexual engagement. When you meet online, a person must not tempt you into getting into private space. This will compromise personal integrity, leaving you hurt and destroying your courtship.

Chaperon was responsible for supervising the courtship process in the traditional society. Where this is impossible, group activities are encouraged. Gather friends, age mates or even join families during gatherings. You are not even allowed to exchange a kiss until you get married. If the family learns that you have engaged in any of the prohibited activities, you will be sanctioned. The engagement might be broken for that reason.

The society is laying a lot of emphasis on halal dating for Muslims. This is a situation where you keep contact with the partner you are interested in. Contact can take the form of internet, phone call or even physical gathering. Family and friends are allowed to introduce two partners. Through continued engagement, you make a decision whether to continue with courtship or not. You will then sign a binding contract called Nikah which is as strong as a marriage certificate.

Dating in Islam must not be mistaken for lack of personal will or emotions. You have an opportunity to love a Muslim whether you follow the Islam religion or not. With Halal dating, you have time and the space to develop an understanding and later commit to marrying each other to live happily ever after.




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