Things To Keep In Mind During Coffee Dates

By Arthur Long


Meeting someone for the first time can be such a big deal and most people are usually nervous about this. A coffee date is a good place to start from as it presents a relaxed environment hence one can be at ease. It acts as a foundation for setting up another date in the future. Because of this, one should make sure that they are on their best behavior during these coffee dates.

While selecting the time, there are a number of options. The best time is usually on a Saturday or Sunday afternoon when the atmosphere is relaxed and chill. Such a day can even turn into a dinner date. Others can opt for after work which is also okay because there is no pressure to get back to the office. It is important to stick to a specific time frame especially if one is not attracted to their date.

Since one does not know much about their date, doing proper research before they meet is always helpful. This makes one gather a lot of information which will guide them during the entire time. A good tip is mentioning something about the other person during the date and letting them give further details. A good way of avoiding awkwardness and silent moments is complimenting each other on various aspects.

This initial setting usually revolves around getting to know the other person better. Since there are so many questions on ones mind, its important to know how to ask them without seeming like an investigator; this is by listening keenly. In the event that the other party seems rather silent, asking some question is a nice way to keep the conversation going.

Being well groomed helps in making a good first impression. It is simply what captures the eye and it is also what makes the other party be more interested. After taking a shower, one is supposed to be nicely dressed and it is also good to smell nice. This is what helps your date determine whether there will be a next time or they will leave it at that.

One should watch out for deal breakers. Despite the fact that the date appears to be a very nice and lovely person, if they poses certain characteristics that are hard to stand, compromise should not be an option. It is important to just end the date as friends no matter what. This is because the trait will always be present as a problem in the relationship.

There are several factors which one should be careful about while engaging in a conversation on the first date. Issues to do with exes, the deceased, job malfunctions among others should be avoided at all costs. This is because they will end up scaring off the other person and also they will run out of things to talk about on a later date.

In summary of the above, first dates can be quite confusing. One is however supposed to get themselves together so that they do not get to make a mess of themselves. Confidence is key and an individual is required to be on their best behavior. They should however not try too much but be themselves throughout the entire time.




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