There are these moments during particular days where I need to be incredibly truthful with myself about what I'm going through and feeling. I know when it is preparing to occur because I get this wave of power from the apex of my neck down to my back and I feel my mood start to change. I once was afraid of it...the feeling of water just about dripping down my back. But in time I've learnt how to sit with it.
What follows after is pure stillness. Deep in thought. Numb. I feel truth bubbling up to the surface.
Often we are going through life not fully grasping that there are things under the surface. We believe that we have fully recovered or have moved on, but in truth there are still pieces to the puzzle that have to be put together. Maybe it is only one piece left, perhaps it's just this moment where you need to sit down completely and get quiet for one last time, or maybe it demands more of your attention.
There's an engaging balance between moving forward and taking the time, whatever the situation speaks for, and starting to grasp what is going on inside. I suspect much of the time when a person is hurt and other people see it they attempt to tell that person to pick themselves up as quickly as possible and forget the past. This information, while intended to be helpful, isn't really practical - only because the same person who gave that guidance, in the same situation, could not take it.
The most sensible advice you really could give is to truly not to forget as quickly as you can and blast forward, but to sit with whatever is happening deep within. To let it all flow through you. The only possible way you can really understand what something actually means to you, especially in a relationship, is by experiencing the result of things.
Have a truth filled moment.
Don't run or hide from feelings that you would associate as negative. They really are life's way of balancing you out. When you attempt to block them or manipulate them, you are putting yourself in a bad place. Let life do what it has to do to keep you learning and growing.
When the moment is over, then go on. Don't attempt to change it while you are in it. Something is trying to speak with you. Open yourself to emotions and feelings and let them talk reason into your heart.
What follows after is pure stillness. Deep in thought. Numb. I feel truth bubbling up to the surface.
Often we are going through life not fully grasping that there are things under the surface. We believe that we have fully recovered or have moved on, but in truth there are still pieces to the puzzle that have to be put together. Maybe it is only one piece left, perhaps it's just this moment where you need to sit down completely and get quiet for one last time, or maybe it demands more of your attention.
There's an engaging balance between moving forward and taking the time, whatever the situation speaks for, and starting to grasp what is going on inside. I suspect much of the time when a person is hurt and other people see it they attempt to tell that person to pick themselves up as quickly as possible and forget the past. This information, while intended to be helpful, isn't really practical - only because the same person who gave that guidance, in the same situation, could not take it.
The most sensible advice you really could give is to truly not to forget as quickly as you can and blast forward, but to sit with whatever is happening deep within. To let it all flow through you. The only possible way you can really understand what something actually means to you, especially in a relationship, is by experiencing the result of things.
Have a truth filled moment.
Don't run or hide from feelings that you would associate as negative. They really are life's way of balancing you out. When you attempt to block them or manipulate them, you are putting yourself in a bad place. Let life do what it has to do to keep you learning and growing.
When the moment is over, then go on. Don't attempt to change it while you are in it. Something is trying to speak with you. Open yourself to emotions and feelings and let them talk reason into your heart.
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Evan Sanders is the author of The Words Of Encouragement, a website dedicated to bringing the best quotes, motivational content on the web, and blogs all to one place. Need some more content to move forward with your life and recover from a relationship? Try these ex boyfriend quotes out.