For the initial couple of weeks of springtime, I was kicking it in lazy mode. I was really slacking on my fashion and grooming. I figured that I already looked sharp enough to meet my romantic needs. The girls kept coming into my bedroom, so I figured things were cool.
My results were pretty normal, however the quality of girl I was pulling was a little bit sub-standard. The amount of effort I needed to place in was likewise more than normal. Not very, but visibly so. Just recently, I enhanced my efforts to look fresh every single time I went out and the modification has been similarly noticeable. I've been acquiring additional eye contact from even more girls and they were much more receptive when I approached.
To reiterate, the improvements in my game were not huge, but they were prominent. I assumed it was just one more application of the "be attractive; don't be unattractive" proverb. However, a peculiar concept struck me one day as I was doing some bird watching with a couple of friends.
We were trading notes on the best ways to determine who the sexually generous girls are based on appearance alone. Jingly bracelets and earrings is good sign. T-shirt underneath a camisole implies don't bother. Tanning at the coast in a bikini means she's comfortable being naked. Floppy hat and long sleeves means you're looking at a premature old lady. Odd style plus no war paint means Chinese, which amounts to garlic breath and attitude.
With us was a United States armed forces lad recently stationed in Tokyo whose input into the discussion was, "They all look excellent to me." Our degree of specificity plainly befuddled the Japan novice.
Our newbie friend's inability to see what we were seeing made me realize that Japanese women likely have a similar sorting system for Japanese men and a similar lack of a sorting system for foreign men. It is a natural result of being surrounded by and interacting with Japanese men for the entirety of their formative years. By the time they graduate and enter the workforce/adult dating market, this sorting skill is so well practiced as to be sub conscious and automatic.
It bears repeating that the ability to sort Japanese men according to their desirability is not an active process. It occurs on the subconscious level, much like a flinch. Soccer players, after practicing for years on end, no longer have to actively think about the process of dribbling; it just happens as they move.
So, many social Japanese females are specialists at sorting Japanese men. This implies that if you appear to be East Asian, you need to be on point or risk of running head first into non-negotiable rejection. Other foreigners with more exotic looks will have more wiggle room to work their magic because an unfamiliar face will briefly delay Japanese girls' automated filters. But, speaking from my own personal experience, this effect is not enough to overcome any glaring deficiencies. Expats need to look presentable to get Japanese girls, period. Noticeable schlubs will be turned down outright despite their skin tone.
One last point to keep in mind is that this automatic sorting works both ways. If you landed on the gorgeous side of it, you could have a great deal of success a lot easier and with more ladies than your round-eyed equal. If you do not, you're dealing with an uphill battle to the land of squeaky noises and unshaven pubic hair.
In closing, if you're a single Asian man looking to find some action in Japan, make sure your fashion, fitness, and grooming are on point.
My results were pretty normal, however the quality of girl I was pulling was a little bit sub-standard. The amount of effort I needed to place in was likewise more than normal. Not very, but visibly so. Just recently, I enhanced my efforts to look fresh every single time I went out and the modification has been similarly noticeable. I've been acquiring additional eye contact from even more girls and they were much more receptive when I approached.
To reiterate, the improvements in my game were not huge, but they were prominent. I assumed it was just one more application of the "be attractive; don't be unattractive" proverb. However, a peculiar concept struck me one day as I was doing some bird watching with a couple of friends.
We were trading notes on the best ways to determine who the sexually generous girls are based on appearance alone. Jingly bracelets and earrings is good sign. T-shirt underneath a camisole implies don't bother. Tanning at the coast in a bikini means she's comfortable being naked. Floppy hat and long sleeves means you're looking at a premature old lady. Odd style plus no war paint means Chinese, which amounts to garlic breath and attitude.
With us was a United States armed forces lad recently stationed in Tokyo whose input into the discussion was, "They all look excellent to me." Our degree of specificity plainly befuddled the Japan novice.
Our newbie friend's inability to see what we were seeing made me realize that Japanese women likely have a similar sorting system for Japanese men and a similar lack of a sorting system for foreign men. It is a natural result of being surrounded by and interacting with Japanese men for the entirety of their formative years. By the time they graduate and enter the workforce/adult dating market, this sorting skill is so well practiced as to be sub conscious and automatic.
It bears repeating that the ability to sort Japanese men according to their desirability is not an active process. It occurs on the subconscious level, much like a flinch. Soccer players, after practicing for years on end, no longer have to actively think about the process of dribbling; it just happens as they move.
So, many social Japanese females are specialists at sorting Japanese men. This implies that if you appear to be East Asian, you need to be on point or risk of running head first into non-negotiable rejection. Other foreigners with more exotic looks will have more wiggle room to work their magic because an unfamiliar face will briefly delay Japanese girls' automated filters. But, speaking from my own personal experience, this effect is not enough to overcome any glaring deficiencies. Expats need to look presentable to get Japanese girls, period. Noticeable schlubs will be turned down outright despite their skin tone.
One last point to keep in mind is that this automatic sorting works both ways. If you landed on the gorgeous side of it, you could have a great deal of success a lot easier and with more ladies than your round-eyed equal. If you do not, you're dealing with an uphill battle to the land of squeaky noises and unshaven pubic hair.
In closing, if you're a single Asian man looking to find some action in Japan, make sure your fashion, fitness, and grooming are on point.
About the Author:
Japanese girls can be a mystery. They certainly were to me, and I'm Japanese-American. Fortunately, I figured out how to lead a life of romantic abundance in the land of the rising sun. Learn everything I wish I'd known about meeting Japanese girls back when I was a college graduate on my blog: redsunblue.com