Going through a breakup can be emotionally devastating. Being rejected by someone that probably promised to love you forever strikes to the core of your being. Your ego and self-worth can be damaged so much that you might feel like you will never recover. You feel as if the only thing that will cure you of this malady would be for your ex to come back to you. If the love that you once shared was restored then your heart would be instantly healed. You search for a way to bring your ex back but the dream is dying. You feel like your ex very well might be gone forever. What can you do to ease the pain and eventually attract the love of your life back to you again?
Joy and a love for life truly are the emotions that you must feel before your ex will consider returning. This might sound insane but there is a method to this madness. You may have even noticed this in your life and other relationships. Your best chance for getting back together with the one you love is to adopt a cheerful attitude and eliminate any appearance of anxiety or sadness from your life. You might feel a little uncomfortable with this thought or say that it is impossible. You may even cling to the pain as if it is the last shred of what is left of your relationship. You might even worry that your ex will feel that you don't care anymore if you're not upset but this isn't true.
Fear and sadness are not helpful emotions in your life anymore. These emotions aren't helping you to get your ex back or achieve anything worthwhile in your life. They only drag you down and waste your time. People avoid sad, emotional, depressed people who appear to have a lot of drama in their life. We all tend to gravitate toward others who are happy, optimistic about life and those that have exciting goals and dreams. Your goal is to become attractive to your ex again, correct? Your ex is probably tired of seeing you upset and emotional and changing your attitude will change how your ex views you in their mind and feels about you in their heart.
Being happy might be difficult at first. Your life has been turned upside down. You have lost the person that you used to laugh with and joke with. By forcing yourself to be happy and to think positive thoughts you will start to get into the habit of being happy. Think about yourself for a while and go out of your way to make time to make yourself laugh and be happy. If there is a favorite food that brings you pleasure, indulge in that food as a treat. Maybe you adore ice cream or lobster. Make a meal of your favorite foods and feel the love that you have for yourself blossom. Get out of the house and be around people. People in public can be funny. Experience life again. For a quick happiness fix, watch a funny movie or video that makes you giggle. The important thing is that you laugh every day.
As you start to feel better about your life, begin to dream of all the things that you can now do in life. Think about what you may have wanted to do when you were together with your ex but couldn't. Now that you're single, you have the time to pursue those hobbies or goals. Maybe you wanted to start a business or learn a new language. Perhaps you always dreamed of going on a cruise. Write down your goals and dreams and begin to map out the steps necessary for you to achieve these dreams. If it's a cruise, research where you want to travel to and visualize yourself on that boat soaking up the sun. You might be surprised by how your new attitude becomes attractive to your ex as your life moves forward without them. Curiosity will get the better of them and your ex will be unable to resist the temptation to contact you and see how you're doing. They might even be a little jealous that you're not an emotional mess anymore without them. This will cause your ex to begin to feel some emotions about the breakup that they hadn't felt before and all of this is good for your future relationship together.
To further open your mind to the possibilities in life, understand that there are a lot of single people on the face of the planet. While you're waiting for your ex to wake up and smell the coffee, take a look around at all the people looking for someone just like you. You don't have to go out on a date but looking at profiles on a few dating sites might make you realize that even if your ex doesn't come back to you, there are other people out there equally as attractive if not more attractive than your ex. You don't have to contact anyone. Just do a little window shopping.
Loneliness can be difficult to handle at first but you will find that it becomes easier in time. Soon you will be so busy with your life that you will even forget about your ex for short periods of time. Don't become upset about this. This is natural. As your life settles down and you start feeling better about yourself, things will change. You will have things in your life that make you happy and as a result you will become more attractive to your ex and the people around you. It is often when we are satisfied with our life and truly happy again that our ex comes back. There is a connection between these two so the sooner you start to feel better about yourself and your life, the sooner you will find your ex becomes attracted to you again.
Joy and a love for life truly are the emotions that you must feel before your ex will consider returning. This might sound insane but there is a method to this madness. You may have even noticed this in your life and other relationships. Your best chance for getting back together with the one you love is to adopt a cheerful attitude and eliminate any appearance of anxiety or sadness from your life. You might feel a little uncomfortable with this thought or say that it is impossible. You may even cling to the pain as if it is the last shred of what is left of your relationship. You might even worry that your ex will feel that you don't care anymore if you're not upset but this isn't true.
Fear and sadness are not helpful emotions in your life anymore. These emotions aren't helping you to get your ex back or achieve anything worthwhile in your life. They only drag you down and waste your time. People avoid sad, emotional, depressed people who appear to have a lot of drama in their life. We all tend to gravitate toward others who are happy, optimistic about life and those that have exciting goals and dreams. Your goal is to become attractive to your ex again, correct? Your ex is probably tired of seeing you upset and emotional and changing your attitude will change how your ex views you in their mind and feels about you in their heart.
Being happy might be difficult at first. Your life has been turned upside down. You have lost the person that you used to laugh with and joke with. By forcing yourself to be happy and to think positive thoughts you will start to get into the habit of being happy. Think about yourself for a while and go out of your way to make time to make yourself laugh and be happy. If there is a favorite food that brings you pleasure, indulge in that food as a treat. Maybe you adore ice cream or lobster. Make a meal of your favorite foods and feel the love that you have for yourself blossom. Get out of the house and be around people. People in public can be funny. Experience life again. For a quick happiness fix, watch a funny movie or video that makes you giggle. The important thing is that you laugh every day.
As you start to feel better about your life, begin to dream of all the things that you can now do in life. Think about what you may have wanted to do when you were together with your ex but couldn't. Now that you're single, you have the time to pursue those hobbies or goals. Maybe you wanted to start a business or learn a new language. Perhaps you always dreamed of going on a cruise. Write down your goals and dreams and begin to map out the steps necessary for you to achieve these dreams. If it's a cruise, research where you want to travel to and visualize yourself on that boat soaking up the sun. You might be surprised by how your new attitude becomes attractive to your ex as your life moves forward without them. Curiosity will get the better of them and your ex will be unable to resist the temptation to contact you and see how you're doing. They might even be a little jealous that you're not an emotional mess anymore without them. This will cause your ex to begin to feel some emotions about the breakup that they hadn't felt before and all of this is good for your future relationship together.
To further open your mind to the possibilities in life, understand that there are a lot of single people on the face of the planet. While you're waiting for your ex to wake up and smell the coffee, take a look around at all the people looking for someone just like you. You don't have to go out on a date but looking at profiles on a few dating sites might make you realize that even if your ex doesn't come back to you, there are other people out there equally as attractive if not more attractive than your ex. You don't have to contact anyone. Just do a little window shopping.
Loneliness can be difficult to handle at first but you will find that it becomes easier in time. Soon you will be so busy with your life that you will even forget about your ex for short periods of time. Don't become upset about this. This is natural. As your life settles down and you start feeling better about yourself, things will change. You will have things in your life that make you happy and as a result you will become more attractive to your ex and the people around you. It is often when we are satisfied with our life and truly happy again that our ex comes back. There is a connection between these two so the sooner you start to feel better about yourself and your life, the sooner you will find your ex becomes attracted to you again.
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