Trying to get your ex to return your calls or pick up the phone might seem almost impossible since your breakup. You have tried leaving messages and calling when you know that they're free but you feel sure that your ex is avoiding you. What can you do to get your ex to call you back or pick up the phone?
If you are hoping to get back together with your ex, your desire to talk things through and resolve the problems in your relationship has probably become an obsession. Your desire to hear your ex or to find out how they're doing can turn into an impulsive urge that simply will not be silenced. You might want to say that you're sorry or to talk with your ex about all the reasons why you feel that you can make your relationship work but your ex won't answer your calls. There's a very good chance that your ex knows why you're calling and, at the moment, they don't want to discuss getting back together. There are things you can do to move your relationship in that direction, though. There are things that you can do to get your ex to talk with you again.
First, if you already tried calling your ex numerous times and you have left messages for them, they know that you're trying to get in touch with them. Further calls and messages will only make matters worse and further annoy your ex. The more you call them, the more you're going to annoy them and the longer it's going to take to initiate contact with your ex again. Also, every time you call your ex you make them feel better about themselves and the more needy you appear in their eyes. Before you do more damage to your chances of getting back together with your ex you should avoid calling them for a period of time.
How long you wait before calling your ex again depends upon how often you have been trying to get in touch with them and how many messages you have left for them. All of this includes text messages and emails, also. Often a week is a sufficient amount of time to wait but if you have been calling multiple times a day since your breakup then it might take two weeks or more. Time has a healing effect on how we feel about others. Give your ex some time to begin to miss you and to forget about the fact that you have been trying to call them so often.
Your second step to further improve your chances of getting your ex to call you back should be to allow your life to become a bit of a mystery to everyone around you. It's not uncommon for an ex to try to find out what's going on in your life and how you're doing by talking to your mutual friends. You might think that your ex would never do something like this but it happens and you should be prepared for this. This is why it's important that you avoid talking about your desire to get back together with your ex or how much you miss your ex. Your life should appear as normal as possible and you should avoid letting the world know about your feelings by posting sad messages on your social networking profiles. Your mysterious life will make your ex become curious as a cat about how you're doing and what you're up to.
You can leverage your social networking profile by posting funny pictures that you find that improve your mood or optimistic songs that make you happy. If you find it difficult to resist the temptation to post songs that remind you of your ex or status updates that are sad or depressing then it's better to do nothing at all.
The final step in getting back in touch with your ex and getting them to pick up the phone is to start off small. Being with a text message before you try calling your ex again. Text messages have become almost a mandatory stepping stone that you must use before you call your ex for the first time after a breakup. The great thing about text messages is that your ex will have no idea of whether or not you're upset or sad. They is no way for your ex to know if you're out on the town having a good time or if you're curled up on the couch drowning in a puddle of your own tears.
It will be best if you keep things short and sweet when you send your first message to your ex. A simple message that is upbeat and positive should do the trick after you have waited the proper amount of time. Avoid talking about the breakup or getting back together and don't become frustrated if your ex doesn't reply back to you immediately. Be patient and wait until he replies. When he does reply, think your response through before sending it and make your messages appear to be happy and positive. Avoid arguing or becoming upset through your messages and match the length and frequency to what your ex sends you. You can progress to talking on the phone by asking your ex to call you by saying that you have something funny to tell them but you can't be bothered with typing it all out.
The pain that you're in right now and the frustration that you're feeling these days is real and justified. You have lost your best friend. You are missing that key person in your life that you shared everything with. Your desire to hear their voice and the soothing comfort that a simple phone call might provide could be offset by hearing an angry voice on the other end of the line if you force the issue too much.
These tips should help you to get back in touch with your ex and begin the process of winning their heart back. You should be able to, step by step, rebuild your relationship from here on out if you're patient with your ex. There will be days when the waiting will feel unbearable and moments when you're going to be tempted to try to call your ex again. Avoid that temptation and remember what you have learned here about how to get your ex to talk to you again.
If you are hoping to get back together with your ex, your desire to talk things through and resolve the problems in your relationship has probably become an obsession. Your desire to hear your ex or to find out how they're doing can turn into an impulsive urge that simply will not be silenced. You might want to say that you're sorry or to talk with your ex about all the reasons why you feel that you can make your relationship work but your ex won't answer your calls. There's a very good chance that your ex knows why you're calling and, at the moment, they don't want to discuss getting back together. There are things you can do to move your relationship in that direction, though. There are things that you can do to get your ex to talk with you again.
First, if you already tried calling your ex numerous times and you have left messages for them, they know that you're trying to get in touch with them. Further calls and messages will only make matters worse and further annoy your ex. The more you call them, the more you're going to annoy them and the longer it's going to take to initiate contact with your ex again. Also, every time you call your ex you make them feel better about themselves and the more needy you appear in their eyes. Before you do more damage to your chances of getting back together with your ex you should avoid calling them for a period of time.
How long you wait before calling your ex again depends upon how often you have been trying to get in touch with them and how many messages you have left for them. All of this includes text messages and emails, also. Often a week is a sufficient amount of time to wait but if you have been calling multiple times a day since your breakup then it might take two weeks or more. Time has a healing effect on how we feel about others. Give your ex some time to begin to miss you and to forget about the fact that you have been trying to call them so often.
Your second step to further improve your chances of getting your ex to call you back should be to allow your life to become a bit of a mystery to everyone around you. It's not uncommon for an ex to try to find out what's going on in your life and how you're doing by talking to your mutual friends. You might think that your ex would never do something like this but it happens and you should be prepared for this. This is why it's important that you avoid talking about your desire to get back together with your ex or how much you miss your ex. Your life should appear as normal as possible and you should avoid letting the world know about your feelings by posting sad messages on your social networking profiles. Your mysterious life will make your ex become curious as a cat about how you're doing and what you're up to.
You can leverage your social networking profile by posting funny pictures that you find that improve your mood or optimistic songs that make you happy. If you find it difficult to resist the temptation to post songs that remind you of your ex or status updates that are sad or depressing then it's better to do nothing at all.
The final step in getting back in touch with your ex and getting them to pick up the phone is to start off small. Being with a text message before you try calling your ex again. Text messages have become almost a mandatory stepping stone that you must use before you call your ex for the first time after a breakup. The great thing about text messages is that your ex will have no idea of whether or not you're upset or sad. They is no way for your ex to know if you're out on the town having a good time or if you're curled up on the couch drowning in a puddle of your own tears.
It will be best if you keep things short and sweet when you send your first message to your ex. A simple message that is upbeat and positive should do the trick after you have waited the proper amount of time. Avoid talking about the breakup or getting back together and don't become frustrated if your ex doesn't reply back to you immediately. Be patient and wait until he replies. When he does reply, think your response through before sending it and make your messages appear to be happy and positive. Avoid arguing or becoming upset through your messages and match the length and frequency to what your ex sends you. You can progress to talking on the phone by asking your ex to call you by saying that you have something funny to tell them but you can't be bothered with typing it all out.
The pain that you're in right now and the frustration that you're feeling these days is real and justified. You have lost your best friend. You are missing that key person in your life that you shared everything with. Your desire to hear their voice and the soothing comfort that a simple phone call might provide could be offset by hearing an angry voice on the other end of the line if you force the issue too much.
These tips should help you to get back in touch with your ex and begin the process of winning their heart back. You should be able to, step by step, rebuild your relationship from here on out if you're patient with your ex. There will be days when the waiting will feel unbearable and moments when you're going to be tempted to try to call your ex again. Avoid that temptation and remember what you have learned here about how to get your ex to talk to you again.
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