The doubt and frustration after a breakup can be maddening. Wondering if you still have a chance of getting back together with your ex can be confusing. Often what your ex says and what they do seem to be in opposition. They might tell you one thing yet you have this nagging feeling that they are still in love with you. You feel that there is still hope. You want to get back together but every attempt to reunite is met with opposition.
Sorting out your own feelings and deciding what you should do in such a situation can be heartbreaking. Does your ex still love you? Does your ex miss you? Should you try talking things through with your ex or should you wait for them to come back to you? The truth is that your ex very well might be as confused as you are right now but take a hint from these signs that your ex does still love you and hold fast to the hope that you can get back together with your ex.
If you hear from some of your friends or family members that you ex was in touch with them then there is a good chance that your ex is missing you. Your ex might say that they were simply catching up with old friends or that they didn't want to be rude to your family but the truth is probably something completely different. For your ex to contact your mutual friends or your immediate family, there is probably still some love there for you and a feeling of loss that they needed to address. Contacting people close to you is a passive way of contacting you without disturbing you or contacting you directly.
The temptation to either become angry with your friends and family for talking with your ex might be your initial reaction. Instead of lashing out at them, recognize this communication between your ex and the people around you as a feeble attempt to get information about you. It might be best if you keep your thoughts and feelings to yourself at this point. Dragging your close friends into your relationship right now isn't a good idea. Let your ex become frustrated when they can't get any real information out of these resources and make your ex contact you directly instead. Using a third party to help you get your ex back isn't a good idea, no matter how clever you might think it is.
The next clue that your ex still feels something for you will be that they contact you directly. They might have a question or a lame excuse to get in touch with you such as wanting to return some things that they found or yous or to ask you a simple question such as where something is that they misplaced. The truth is that they are contacting you to either see how you are, hear your voice again or to open up the lines of communication. Your ex will have moments when they will miss you every bit as much as you miss them. The desire to connect with the person that was once so close to them can be overwhelming and they will reach out to you in this moment of weakness.
Before you go running around the house dancing for joy, understand that you still need to be cool and calm. You need to hide your emotions and avoid talking about the breakup, how sorry you are, how you want to get back together or anything negative having to do with what happened in the past. Your ex probably already knows that you want to get back together. All of this might be a way for your ex to start that process of reuniting with you. Any talk about getting back together will scare them off, though. Getting back together is all about connecting and falling in love again. Keep your cool and avoid talking about it. Just let it happen.
One good place to look for signs that your ex is still in love with you is on their social networking profile. While spying on your ex is frowned upon, you probably know that your ex looks at your profile to see what is going on in your life. Likewise, your ex knows that you look at their profile so they will sometimes post pictures or write about how happy they are with life right now. Chances are that the majority of information that your ex posts to their profile will be directed towards you without mentioning your name at all.
It can be dangerous to spy on your ex using their social networking profile. Sometimes it's better to live in ignorant bliss. Be sure that you're in a positive mood and understand that there is always a logical explanation for whatever you find. You might be tempted to become hurt or angry if your ex appears to be having a great time without you but keep in mind that often when someone is trying to convince the world that everything is fine, there are problems just underneath the surface. People often cover deep wounds with partying and acting as if things are just a little too wonderful to be true. An ex that posts picture of themselves with a new partner or a status update saying how happy they are is usually on the brink of falling apart. Be sure that you have your life together since this is your cue that they are about to implode.
If you notice any of these signs that your ex misses you and is still in love with you, keep this information to yourself. Be happy about it but be patient. Don't try to reach out to your ex or confront them with this knowledge. Remain hopeful and work on getting your life and self-esteem back before you attempt to bring up the subject of getting back together. Let your ex fall in love with you all over again. There will come a breaking point and there's a very good chance that your ex is close to reaching that point. Be ready to catch them when they fall and understand that pushing your ex or trying to convince them to come back to you simply isn't going to work.
Sorting out your own feelings and deciding what you should do in such a situation can be heartbreaking. Does your ex still love you? Does your ex miss you? Should you try talking things through with your ex or should you wait for them to come back to you? The truth is that your ex very well might be as confused as you are right now but take a hint from these signs that your ex does still love you and hold fast to the hope that you can get back together with your ex.
If you hear from some of your friends or family members that you ex was in touch with them then there is a good chance that your ex is missing you. Your ex might say that they were simply catching up with old friends or that they didn't want to be rude to your family but the truth is probably something completely different. For your ex to contact your mutual friends or your immediate family, there is probably still some love there for you and a feeling of loss that they needed to address. Contacting people close to you is a passive way of contacting you without disturbing you or contacting you directly.
The temptation to either become angry with your friends and family for talking with your ex might be your initial reaction. Instead of lashing out at them, recognize this communication between your ex and the people around you as a feeble attempt to get information about you. It might be best if you keep your thoughts and feelings to yourself at this point. Dragging your close friends into your relationship right now isn't a good idea. Let your ex become frustrated when they can't get any real information out of these resources and make your ex contact you directly instead. Using a third party to help you get your ex back isn't a good idea, no matter how clever you might think it is.
The next clue that your ex still feels something for you will be that they contact you directly. They might have a question or a lame excuse to get in touch with you such as wanting to return some things that they found or yous or to ask you a simple question such as where something is that they misplaced. The truth is that they are contacting you to either see how you are, hear your voice again or to open up the lines of communication. Your ex will have moments when they will miss you every bit as much as you miss them. The desire to connect with the person that was once so close to them can be overwhelming and they will reach out to you in this moment of weakness.
Before you go running around the house dancing for joy, understand that you still need to be cool and calm. You need to hide your emotions and avoid talking about the breakup, how sorry you are, how you want to get back together or anything negative having to do with what happened in the past. Your ex probably already knows that you want to get back together. All of this might be a way for your ex to start that process of reuniting with you. Any talk about getting back together will scare them off, though. Getting back together is all about connecting and falling in love again. Keep your cool and avoid talking about it. Just let it happen.
One good place to look for signs that your ex is still in love with you is on their social networking profile. While spying on your ex is frowned upon, you probably know that your ex looks at your profile to see what is going on in your life. Likewise, your ex knows that you look at their profile so they will sometimes post pictures or write about how happy they are with life right now. Chances are that the majority of information that your ex posts to their profile will be directed towards you without mentioning your name at all.
It can be dangerous to spy on your ex using their social networking profile. Sometimes it's better to live in ignorant bliss. Be sure that you're in a positive mood and understand that there is always a logical explanation for whatever you find. You might be tempted to become hurt or angry if your ex appears to be having a great time without you but keep in mind that often when someone is trying to convince the world that everything is fine, there are problems just underneath the surface. People often cover deep wounds with partying and acting as if things are just a little too wonderful to be true. An ex that posts picture of themselves with a new partner or a status update saying how happy they are is usually on the brink of falling apart. Be sure that you have your life together since this is your cue that they are about to implode.
If you notice any of these signs that your ex misses you and is still in love with you, keep this information to yourself. Be happy about it but be patient. Don't try to reach out to your ex or confront them with this knowledge. Remain hopeful and work on getting your life and self-esteem back before you attempt to bring up the subject of getting back together. Let your ex fall in love with you all over again. There will come a breaking point and there's a very good chance that your ex is close to reaching that point. Be ready to catch them when they fall and understand that pushing your ex or trying to convince them to come back to you simply isn't going to work.
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