Imagine that you have dated a very special person to you for a few months and you assume that he feels the same soul mate type connection that you do. Then you bring up the question about the future of your relationship and he stalls and says nothing. You feel as though you have brought up a taboo subject because he's pulled back. You wonder if he will ever be ready to do the big 'c' word.
The answer really isn't magical, although the results may seem that way. Often times, the man is just as concerned about being rejected or refused as you are. There may be other issues that could be holding him back, perhaps even some that you really should know about before saying "yes". Here are some tips to weave your own "spell" to take the relationship to the next level.
1. Stressed out - Be sure that when you are ready to pop the question about commitment, that neither of you are under stress at the time.
2. Seeing is believing and vice versa - Sometimes the non-verbal messages we receive carry more information that those filled with words. When the two of you are together pay attention to his body language. If you notice that he seems to physically pull back whenever the "c" word comes up, don't be afraid to ask him how he feels. On the other end of the spectrum, if he seems to be opening up his "space" to include you more and more, tell him how good that feels and how nice it would be if it were for a longer period of time.
3. The truth can set you (both) free - So the topic of commitment has come up and it seems to be a sticking point in what had been a promising relationship. What is needed is for the two of you to share, truthfully, your feelings on the topic. Here is where you may discover why he fears to give himself totally to the relationship. It may well be his own fear that you would reject him or something in his past. If so, you have the opportunity to support and nurture him and, in turn, can receive that which your heart desires.
4. Opportunity - Facing the truth of what he may have to say is unnerving at best. If he says "Yes" it's a green light. If he says he's not ready yet and needs more time, this is your opportunity to stay and wait for him to be ready. He may need more time than you for that big of a decision. It is a gamble that he will be ready or not, but nothing ventured is certain to lead to nothing gained.
Once you have the feelings that he is Mr. Right and he has told you how much you mean to him, it feels like a magical connection. Committing to another person and vice versa, can almost feel like the earth revolving around the sun - truly magical.
The answer really isn't magical, although the results may seem that way. Often times, the man is just as concerned about being rejected or refused as you are. There may be other issues that could be holding him back, perhaps even some that you really should know about before saying "yes". Here are some tips to weave your own "spell" to take the relationship to the next level.
1. Stressed out - Be sure that when you are ready to pop the question about commitment, that neither of you are under stress at the time.
2. Seeing is believing and vice versa - Sometimes the non-verbal messages we receive carry more information that those filled with words. When the two of you are together pay attention to his body language. If you notice that he seems to physically pull back whenever the "c" word comes up, don't be afraid to ask him how he feels. On the other end of the spectrum, if he seems to be opening up his "space" to include you more and more, tell him how good that feels and how nice it would be if it were for a longer period of time.
3. The truth can set you (both) free - So the topic of commitment has come up and it seems to be a sticking point in what had been a promising relationship. What is needed is for the two of you to share, truthfully, your feelings on the topic. Here is where you may discover why he fears to give himself totally to the relationship. It may well be his own fear that you would reject him or something in his past. If so, you have the opportunity to support and nurture him and, in turn, can receive that which your heart desires.
4. Opportunity - Facing the truth of what he may have to say is unnerving at best. If he says "Yes" it's a green light. If he says he's not ready yet and needs more time, this is your opportunity to stay and wait for him to be ready. He may need more time than you for that big of a decision. It is a gamble that he will be ready or not, but nothing ventured is certain to lead to nothing gained.
Once you have the feelings that he is Mr. Right and he has told you how much you mean to him, it feels like a magical connection. Committing to another person and vice versa, can almost feel like the earth revolving around the sun - truly magical.
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