Cultivating Patience When You Are Still In Love With Your Ex

By Theodore Jacobson


Before you can ever even think of trying to get your ex back you need to end the doubt inside your own mind. Before you can even consider talking to your girlfriend about getting back together or even start spending time with her you need to eliminate the biggest stumbling block that stands in your way of getting her back. That stumbling block is your own doubts and insecurities.

This might sound like a stupid questions but are you sure that you really love your ex boyfriend? Do you love him or do you just want to get him back? Find out the truth before you move forward with your plans to win him over.

Realizing how doubtful you are is the first step towards taking care of this problem. Realizing that you have bad thoughts inside your head and that even though you want to be positive and optimistic about everything, you still have doubts in your mind is a good first step.

I know this sounds strange but there is a big difference between loving someone and wanting to posess them. Loving your ex boyfriend means that you want the best for him and you want him to be happy. You can still love him without even seeing him again. You can close your eyes and think of him and wish that good things happen in his life. You can remember good times you had and be happy for the time that you had together. Loving him doesn't require that he tell you that he loves you or for him to even like you. If you love him you simply love him.

While you might wish that your ex would come back to you immediately, it rarely happens as quickly as we might like. Have you noticed that the harder we push and the more we concentrate on winning back the love of someone dear to us, the further they drift from us. The more desperate we are to win back the affections of the one person we love, the more they reject us. This is why you must be patient. You must understand that it might take a little bit of time for the dust to settle from your breakup and for the healing to begin. If you are constantly asking your ex to come back to you, the answer will always be no.

Acting crazy and worrying and being depressed isn't going to win her over. Being funny, cool and knowing in your heart that she will fall in love with you again will get her back.

Spend a little time every day daydreaming about what it's going to be like to get her back. Think about how it's going to feel to have her back in your life. How do you want it to happen? Will she start calling you or texting you and eventually she will start being around you more often or will it all happen in an instant?

Try these exercises for a week or two and see if you notice any changes in your boyfriend. In addition, spend some time thinking about loving him selflessly. Try to love him without thinking about yourself or your needs and see if there is a change in you. You very well might lose the anxiety and stress and depression often associated with a breakup and you might find that he starts showing you a little more attention.




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