It's a fact that most men are afraid of approaching a woman for fear of being rejected, especially if this has happened to them in the past. A guy only needs to be rejected once to develop this fear. Some are a little more hardy (or foolhardy) and try again using the same method of approach again, and are rejected again. This can leave a mark on a guy. It can reduce a guys feeling of self worth to ashes in an instant. The problem is usually a communications issue, in other words, the dude just doesn't know how to talk to chicks.
The way a guy look physically really has very little to do with how successful he is with a woman. It's a lot more than that. So hiding behind sports magazines or playing "blind man" in front of the boob-tube watching football or whatever is not going to win you any dates, or experience with women. If you don't get out, you will never find a girlfriend. Period!
The most common mistake that men make is that they go into seduction way too soon. Women find that kind of behavior creepy. Also it makes them understand you don't know what you are doing. Women have a built-in, subconscious and instinctive mechanism for choosing the strongest males of the clan. If you act like and alpha male, looks will be very secondary to attraction.
Okay then. Now that we got that out of the way, let's move on to what you should be doing. First you need to get her attention from across a room. This is not where you pretend you are James Bond and be a suave jerk (because frankly, that's what JB is), because women don't find this attractive at all. No, this is where you use subtleties like body language. This is where you start to behave like a real man, and not the scared little boy you really are (at that moment anyway). Be the alpha male, and she will take notice.
Make eye contact with more than one woman. Keep moving around and interacting with everyone. Every now and again try to make eye contact with the woman you are interested in. If she makes eye contact with you more than once, she will probably be open to exchanging a few words with you.
Now you are making your approach and she is smiling while talking to her friends, while keeping her eyes on you. Stand off to the side and join the conversation to show your interest. When she talks to you, and there is a large crowd, pretend a bit that you cannot hear what she is saying by turning your head towards her, frown and gently shake your head while making the "I can't hear you" gesture.
If she does catch on that you can't quite hear what she is saying, she will lean towards you to make herself heard. This is a great sign because she is using her body language to tell you she is interested, maybe even attracted to you. Remember by playing it cool, she will be picking up on your alpha manliness, which she is hardwired to find attractive.
Once in a while, not too often or it will seem a bit weird, touch her shoulder or arm while you are talking. Don't touch her hand, it's too personal and too soon for that. Try not to be obvious and make it a natural thing, like when you are making a point of something, the touch her shoulder lightly. It makes her aware of you and her close proximity to you while you are talking. If this is not taken up the wrong way (which it won't if she is interested), it will heighten her senses a little bit every time you touch her. This is a good thing as it begins to reach her on an emotional level. Women are emotional beings after all.
When you are well into your talking, start to look at her lips occasionally when she is speaking and also think of something which gets you sexually aroused. You don't have to speak about sex; all you have to do is think about it. Your body language will change imperceptibly and her subconscious mind will pick up on it. If she starts looking at your lips too, touching her hair, leaning in and touching you, you can allow your touches to become caresses and then say "Yes, you can kiss me, I want to kiss you too".
And that is when things can really pick up the pace. You just may be surprised by the outcome. So play it cool and she will play straight into your hands...lap, whichever.
The way a guy look physically really has very little to do with how successful he is with a woman. It's a lot more than that. So hiding behind sports magazines or playing "blind man" in front of the boob-tube watching football or whatever is not going to win you any dates, or experience with women. If you don't get out, you will never find a girlfriend. Period!
The most common mistake that men make is that they go into seduction way too soon. Women find that kind of behavior creepy. Also it makes them understand you don't know what you are doing. Women have a built-in, subconscious and instinctive mechanism for choosing the strongest males of the clan. If you act like and alpha male, looks will be very secondary to attraction.
Okay then. Now that we got that out of the way, let's move on to what you should be doing. First you need to get her attention from across a room. This is not where you pretend you are James Bond and be a suave jerk (because frankly, that's what JB is), because women don't find this attractive at all. No, this is where you use subtleties like body language. This is where you start to behave like a real man, and not the scared little boy you really are (at that moment anyway). Be the alpha male, and she will take notice.
Make eye contact with more than one woman. Keep moving around and interacting with everyone. Every now and again try to make eye contact with the woman you are interested in. If she makes eye contact with you more than once, she will probably be open to exchanging a few words with you.
Now you are making your approach and she is smiling while talking to her friends, while keeping her eyes on you. Stand off to the side and join the conversation to show your interest. When she talks to you, and there is a large crowd, pretend a bit that you cannot hear what she is saying by turning your head towards her, frown and gently shake your head while making the "I can't hear you" gesture.
If she does catch on that you can't quite hear what she is saying, she will lean towards you to make herself heard. This is a great sign because she is using her body language to tell you she is interested, maybe even attracted to you. Remember by playing it cool, she will be picking up on your alpha manliness, which she is hardwired to find attractive.
Once in a while, not too often or it will seem a bit weird, touch her shoulder or arm while you are talking. Don't touch her hand, it's too personal and too soon for that. Try not to be obvious and make it a natural thing, like when you are making a point of something, the touch her shoulder lightly. It makes her aware of you and her close proximity to you while you are talking. If this is not taken up the wrong way (which it won't if she is interested), it will heighten her senses a little bit every time you touch her. This is a good thing as it begins to reach her on an emotional level. Women are emotional beings after all.
When you are well into your talking, start to look at her lips occasionally when she is speaking and also think of something which gets you sexually aroused. You don't have to speak about sex; all you have to do is think about it. Your body language will change imperceptibly and her subconscious mind will pick up on it. If she starts looking at your lips too, touching her hair, leaning in and touching you, you can allow your touches to become caresses and then say "Yes, you can kiss me, I want to kiss you too".
And that is when things can really pick up the pace. You just may be surprised by the outcome. So play it cool and she will play straight into your hands...lap, whichever.
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