Patience is probably a virtue that you wish you had when it came to getting back together with your girlfriend. The torture of every day apart from her and the anguish that goes along with that. Worrying that with every passing day the chance of her finding someone else and moving on with her life without you increases. With every passing day you feel her drift away from you. You become less and less important to her and you're sure that the odds of her coming back to you grow slim. You search for an answer. You try to solve the riddle and understand what you need to do to get her back before it's too late.
There's no sense in pretending that you're doing well. There's no sense in lying to yourself that you're not worried. All of these emotions weigh heavy on your mind as you worry about your relationship. You grow suspicious and angry about the situation that you're in. Did some other guy turn her away from you? Is there someone else that is filling her head with lies? All of these emotions are making you desperate for an answer and being desperate can cause you to make mistakes when trying to get the woman that you love back.
For instance, you have probably thought long and hard about this. You want to make things right again between you and your girlfriend so you do what comes naturally. That means that you try apologizing at first. You may even mean it. You promise to change. You promise to never do whatever it was that you think caused your breakup or you promise to always do whatever it was that you didn't do that caused your breakup.
After you discover that trying to talk things through or apologizing didn't get you what you want, you might try something just a little bit different. You might come up with the bright idea that if you were the perfect boyfriend that she would see how much you love her and she would want to come back to you. You could buy her the perfect gift that would touch her heart. You would tell her that you love her and she would fall into your loving arms. If that didn't work then you would beg her to take you back. You would play off of her sense of sympathy and pour your heart out to her while hoping that she would see how important she was to you. Surely, your tears would mean something to her and she would at least try giving your relationship a second chance.
In case you didn't know already, all of these methods will fail you. No matter how much your frantic mind might want to convince you that these are the right things to do, it's lying to you. Your mind will try to tell you all sorts of things to get you to just act and do the wrong things. It is filled with fear right now. Fear will cause you to do anything right about now, even if it's wrong. You should be kicking back right now coming up with a real plan to get your girlfriend back if you're serious.
In order to change your ex-girlfriend's mind you need to understand how women think. The only thing that will get your girlfriend to come back to you is love. So, in order for her to change her mind she has to feel a deep and abiding love for you again. You see, it's more than a decision that she made between the two of you when she left. She told all of her friends and her family that she was breaking up with you. When she comes back to you, she is going to have to explain everything to all of those people why she has changed her mind and the only thing that can make a woman do something like that is a form of female insanity called love.
Emotions should be at the core of your plan to win her back and they should also be absent in your decision making when it comes to your plan. It is simple to make her fall in love with you again. You did it before. At that time though, you weren't as emotionally charged as you are right now. Your plan needs to be cold and calculating and without emotions. It is only when we men become emotionally involved that we make mistakes after a relationship ends. If you didn't care then it would be simple for you to get her back. You love her though so you're going to have to keep your emotions in check and learn a little patience if you hope to win her over again.
There's no sense in pretending that you're doing well. There's no sense in lying to yourself that you're not worried. All of these emotions weigh heavy on your mind as you worry about your relationship. You grow suspicious and angry about the situation that you're in. Did some other guy turn her away from you? Is there someone else that is filling her head with lies? All of these emotions are making you desperate for an answer and being desperate can cause you to make mistakes when trying to get the woman that you love back.
For instance, you have probably thought long and hard about this. You want to make things right again between you and your girlfriend so you do what comes naturally. That means that you try apologizing at first. You may even mean it. You promise to change. You promise to never do whatever it was that you think caused your breakup or you promise to always do whatever it was that you didn't do that caused your breakup.
After you discover that trying to talk things through or apologizing didn't get you what you want, you might try something just a little bit different. You might come up with the bright idea that if you were the perfect boyfriend that she would see how much you love her and she would want to come back to you. You could buy her the perfect gift that would touch her heart. You would tell her that you love her and she would fall into your loving arms. If that didn't work then you would beg her to take you back. You would play off of her sense of sympathy and pour your heart out to her while hoping that she would see how important she was to you. Surely, your tears would mean something to her and she would at least try giving your relationship a second chance.
In case you didn't know already, all of these methods will fail you. No matter how much your frantic mind might want to convince you that these are the right things to do, it's lying to you. Your mind will try to tell you all sorts of things to get you to just act and do the wrong things. It is filled with fear right now. Fear will cause you to do anything right about now, even if it's wrong. You should be kicking back right now coming up with a real plan to get your girlfriend back if you're serious.
In order to change your ex-girlfriend's mind you need to understand how women think. The only thing that will get your girlfriend to come back to you is love. So, in order for her to change her mind she has to feel a deep and abiding love for you again. You see, it's more than a decision that she made between the two of you when she left. She told all of her friends and her family that she was breaking up with you. When she comes back to you, she is going to have to explain everything to all of those people why she has changed her mind and the only thing that can make a woman do something like that is a form of female insanity called love.
Emotions should be at the core of your plan to win her back and they should also be absent in your decision making when it comes to your plan. It is simple to make her fall in love with you again. You did it before. At that time though, you weren't as emotionally charged as you are right now. Your plan needs to be cold and calculating and without emotions. It is only when we men become emotionally involved that we make mistakes after a relationship ends. If you didn't care then it would be simple for you to get her back. You love her though so you're going to have to keep your emotions in check and learn a little patience if you hope to win her over again.
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