How To Approach A Woman On The Street

By J. Ryu


You're walking down the street, minding your own business, then there it is, an extremely cute girl walking along staring at her iphone. You're convinced she is your dream girl and possible future wife and if you let her walk on and out of your life, you'll be missing out on the opportunity of a lifetime. What do you do? What can you do?

Arguably, meeting a woman cold, off the street is one of the hardest pickups to do. A woman on the street feels open and vulnerable so if a strange man walks up, her guard will be up. Have you ever had a stranger walk up to you on the street? Feels weird doesn't it? Then should you give up and let her walk out of your life? No Way!

1. Eye contact

As soon as you see "the one," take action! A street approach has to feel spontaneous to the woman, not like a rehearsed canned pick up or they will feel uncomfortable. Make eye contact as soon as possible and keep your eyes locked, too, so she knows that it wasn't just chance that your eyes met.

When eye contact has been made, be sure she understands you are trying to get her attention. Wave, nod, something clearly attention getting. You are trying to establish contact before you approach which helps the woman prepare mentally for a stranger accosting them.

2. Body Language

Upon approach, wear an innocent smile! A smile is welcoming, contagious, conveys openness and innocence and will help lower her guard. Also, use open body language! Make sure your body language is not confrontational and direct but responding to her reactions toward you.

Incorporate hand gestures into your conversation. This will not only help her follow your conversation if you're somewhere busy, but it will also keep her attention on you. On the street, it will be easy for her to get distracted, particularly if she isn't totally convinced that it was worth stopping to talk.

Make use of your hands to keep her eyes concentrated on you. Using your hands will also display self-confidence. Don't keep them in your pockets with your shoulders slouched. You know exactly what you want and you think she'll want it too. Make sure that is Clear.

3. The Game

On a street approach you want to introduce yourself and what you're up to as quickly as you're in so you're not a stranger to her. You also want to keep your lines and conversation light, innocent, and relaxed. The strategy in a street pickup is to lower her raised guard. This is done by you conveying a relaxed, laid-back, innocent vibe. No canned pickup lines in street approaches under any conditions!

A busy woman on the street has someplace to go so you need to be sweet and bold. Do not her, your eye contact and waving should be bold enough to encourage her to stop. From there, you know what to do. Flirt, compliment, make a connection. Make her co curious about you that she would like to know even more.

Don't get too flirty too quick - remember that you just met on the street and you don't even know if she's single - but if her body language is saying "yes," go ahead and ask for a chance to see her again. Stopping someone on the street is a little creepy if you don't handle yourself correctly. The trick is getting her attention and then letting her know how innocent and honest your intentions are.




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