Marriage Counseling: Making A Plan To Prioritize Ones Marriage

By Paul D. Arnold


One of the things taught in marriage counseling is prioritizing your marriage. You could only do this with the systematic approach on the things that take away your time from your relationship. Responsibilities at home such as chores, paying bills, and taking care of children are a few of the things that keep you busy. So, how do you prioritize your marriage?

Of course, you don't have to stop working, skip paying bills, or forget about your children in prioritizing your relationship. Just like doing tasks at work, you have to have a systemic scheme to prioritize each in a balanced way. If you commit yourself to spend at least eight hours alone together with your partner each week, you need to have a timetable where you can organize tasks and other things that you need to do.

Scheduling Your Activities

Marriage counseling is going to teach you how to schedule your activities. This is going to help you find a way to spend more time in your marriage. Listed here are the steps in laying out a schedule for you and your spouse to do the things that are necessary to build your marriage.

* Have a calendar (it could be in your organizer, or mobile application) where you could write down the activities you have to do in a day.

* Write down household chores, work activities, family activities, as well as other things that take your time.

* Now, you can easily lay out the day and the time when you and your partner can spend time together.

* The time together can include activities like lunch or dinner dates, drinking coffee in a cafe, watching a movie, or spending time without any kind of electronic devices.

To begin with, try to have a minimum of 8 hours in your "alone" time with your partner. As your marriage counseling program moves along, you can extend this time. In fact, other couples can spend time together more than 15 hours. Getting 8 hours for your marriage is not something impossible to accomplish.

Make Agreements

You and your spouse have different daily routines. Thus, it is very important to lay out the schedule for your "alone" time together. Rather than finding time, you have to make time for your marriage. To do this, you make agreements and stick to them. Once you get the hang of it, making time for one another becomes easier.

Follow The Ground Rules

Marriage counseling provides the ground rules in making agreements in scheduling your priorities. Nagging and blaming one another are things that you must avoid. Instead, try to make loving discussions regarding the things that you have to settle. When you do this, the activity won't become a chore, but a fulfilling routine instead.

You must understand that it takes time to build your marriage. If you have serious problems, a day of marriage counseling won't make everything okay. It's a process that both of you need to go through. Following the ground rules is going to make it easier so it has to be observed in the program.




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