Are you tired of hearing about the no contact rule? Are you looking for a loophole or a reason why you shouldn't abide by this rule after your breakup? While the no contact rule has so many variations, you know that the bottom line is that you're not supposed to contact your ex after the breakup. While this is simple to understand in theory, it's almost impossible for you to follow in your life right now. Every day is like torture without your ex in it and all you want is to hear their voice.
You understand the logic behind the no contact rule somewhat but, on the other hand, you wish there was an easier way that made more sense to you. You want to tell your ex that you love them. What if they doubt that you still love them and decide that you don't care anymore and decide to start dating someone else? How is neglecting your ex going to help you to win them back? All you know is that you're miserable and every day you struggle to keep from contacting your ex.
While it can be difficult to follow the no contact rule, you should know that there is some logic in it. Some relationship experts swear by the no contact rule and they have no wiggle room for breaking the no contact rule. Personally, I think that it's a good move for both you and your ex to avoid talking to each other for a while because emotions after a breakup can run rather high. Both of you need the opportunity to let the dust settle and for your lives to regain some sort of normalcy without a whole lot of drama. This time apart can actually help you and your chances of getting your ex back but it shouldn't be a hard and fast rule like many people make it out to be.
If you're normal, you're probably thinking that the way to get your ex back is to take every reason they gave you for leaving you and coming up with a solution to that issue. You may have already tried this and failed. You might have even tried being the perfect partner. You went overboard with telling them that you loved them. You tried to give them the perfect romantic reunion complete with gifts. Maybe you even wrote some poetry or you begged and pleaded hoping that they would see how devoted you were to them but nothing had any affect upon your ex. The reason why none of this worked is because your ex didn't make the decision to leave based upon the reasons that they gave you. It was because of how they felt and how they presently feel when they're around you. No amount of logic can change the heart and that is the key to getting your ex back. Attempts to force the issue will only make things worse and lengthen the amount of time it's going to take to get your ex back.
This is where the no contact rule comes in. By backing off and allowing a short amount of time to pass, your ex's perception of you is going to start to change. In addition, if you take advantage of this time apart and get your act together, you stand a very good chance of getting your ex back. It is still going to take a bit of doing but your objective shouldn't be simply to wait your ex out and then call them with the same lame old lines that you tried when you intially broke up. You are going to have to appear to have your life together and you're going to have to approach getting your ex back from a completely different angle.
Keep in mind that abiding by the no contact rule isn't some sort of jail sentence for you. It is your opportunity to get your life together so you can impress your ex when the time does come to win them back. You want your ex to be overwhelmed with emotions when they see you again and you want your ex to be the one to decide that breaking up was a mistake. You want all of those wonderful emotions that they felt when you first fell in love to come back to them but in duces. You'll never be able to make them trust you and see the changes in you if you were hounding them just yesterday and this is why the no contact rule is important to your success in getting your ex back.
You understand the logic behind the no contact rule somewhat but, on the other hand, you wish there was an easier way that made more sense to you. You want to tell your ex that you love them. What if they doubt that you still love them and decide that you don't care anymore and decide to start dating someone else? How is neglecting your ex going to help you to win them back? All you know is that you're miserable and every day you struggle to keep from contacting your ex.
While it can be difficult to follow the no contact rule, you should know that there is some logic in it. Some relationship experts swear by the no contact rule and they have no wiggle room for breaking the no contact rule. Personally, I think that it's a good move for both you and your ex to avoid talking to each other for a while because emotions after a breakup can run rather high. Both of you need the opportunity to let the dust settle and for your lives to regain some sort of normalcy without a whole lot of drama. This time apart can actually help you and your chances of getting your ex back but it shouldn't be a hard and fast rule like many people make it out to be.
If you're normal, you're probably thinking that the way to get your ex back is to take every reason they gave you for leaving you and coming up with a solution to that issue. You may have already tried this and failed. You might have even tried being the perfect partner. You went overboard with telling them that you loved them. You tried to give them the perfect romantic reunion complete with gifts. Maybe you even wrote some poetry or you begged and pleaded hoping that they would see how devoted you were to them but nothing had any affect upon your ex. The reason why none of this worked is because your ex didn't make the decision to leave based upon the reasons that they gave you. It was because of how they felt and how they presently feel when they're around you. No amount of logic can change the heart and that is the key to getting your ex back. Attempts to force the issue will only make things worse and lengthen the amount of time it's going to take to get your ex back.
This is where the no contact rule comes in. By backing off and allowing a short amount of time to pass, your ex's perception of you is going to start to change. In addition, if you take advantage of this time apart and get your act together, you stand a very good chance of getting your ex back. It is still going to take a bit of doing but your objective shouldn't be simply to wait your ex out and then call them with the same lame old lines that you tried when you intially broke up. You are going to have to appear to have your life together and you're going to have to approach getting your ex back from a completely different angle.
Keep in mind that abiding by the no contact rule isn't some sort of jail sentence for you. It is your opportunity to get your life together so you can impress your ex when the time does come to win them back. You want your ex to be overwhelmed with emotions when they see you again and you want your ex to be the one to decide that breaking up was a mistake. You want all of those wonderful emotions that they felt when you first fell in love to come back to them but in duces. You'll never be able to make them trust you and see the changes in you if you were hounding them just yesterday and this is why the no contact rule is important to your success in getting your ex back.
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