Oneitis is a contrived term for people, men in particular, who become obsessed with a potential partner they can't have. Although it's more common among teenagers it also happens with adults. It's a very unhealthy obsession that can mean missing many opportunities to meet someone special and can cause a lot of hurt. We explore the possibility of whether it is possible to cure oneitis.
One of the biggest problems with the condition is being overly obsessed with what the other person thinks. By following every word, they become overly sensitive and worry that anything said outside a perceived comfort zone will destroy the possibility of getting closer. This results in very awkward and stifled conversations that can destroy the potential of becoming closer.
Not being able to relax can only give a negative impression. While most women find a confident easy-going attitude attractive, displaying a lack of confidence and looks nervous has the opposite effect. Imagine being in a bar, would you prefer the company of someone confident or someone nervous? Looking weak isn't an attractive trait.
Being so focused on one person can restrict possibilities. There are many advantages in approaching multiple people even when there isn't a strong attraction. Having conversations with different people can develop experience of talking to different types of personalities and soon it will become easier to identify differing personalities. Other benefits include becoming more relaxed, becoming more confident, and being able to realize the signs when there is significant mutual interest.
Infatuation transfers power to the object, in this context, it puts the girl fully in control. This gives a perception of weakness that can result in any interest being lost. By meeting a good variety of different people, it will become much easier identify whether someone is interested as opposed to those who aren't. Wasting a lot of effort on someone who doesn't have an interest in developing a relationship is futile and frustrating.
Trying too hard to get to know someone can seem creepy. Frequently 'accidentally' meeting someone can make someone afraid of your intentions and make them extremely uncomfortable. In fact, excessive contact can give the impression of being a stalker, which is clearly not an attractive trait. It also gives the impression that she is totally unable to see through a rather shallow facade, most girls are more intelligent than that.
The best cure is to meet a lot of girls. By doing this, it becomes easier to be comfortable around them and discover what some girls like and dislike. It can also help to develop some self-confidence, which is generally seen as an attractive trait. Being slightly harder to date can make someone seem more desirable, this is true for both genders.
Narrow mindedness scares girls, but take heart as it is possible to cure oneitis. Learning what different girls like and dislike helps the man to discover his own needs. Showing more confidence makes a man appear to be more charming and more attractive to potential partners.
One of the biggest problems with the condition is being overly obsessed with what the other person thinks. By following every word, they become overly sensitive and worry that anything said outside a perceived comfort zone will destroy the possibility of getting closer. This results in very awkward and stifled conversations that can destroy the potential of becoming closer.
Not being able to relax can only give a negative impression. While most women find a confident easy-going attitude attractive, displaying a lack of confidence and looks nervous has the opposite effect. Imagine being in a bar, would you prefer the company of someone confident or someone nervous? Looking weak isn't an attractive trait.
Being so focused on one person can restrict possibilities. There are many advantages in approaching multiple people even when there isn't a strong attraction. Having conversations with different people can develop experience of talking to different types of personalities and soon it will become easier to identify differing personalities. Other benefits include becoming more relaxed, becoming more confident, and being able to realize the signs when there is significant mutual interest.
Infatuation transfers power to the object, in this context, it puts the girl fully in control. This gives a perception of weakness that can result in any interest being lost. By meeting a good variety of different people, it will become much easier identify whether someone is interested as opposed to those who aren't. Wasting a lot of effort on someone who doesn't have an interest in developing a relationship is futile and frustrating.
Trying too hard to get to know someone can seem creepy. Frequently 'accidentally' meeting someone can make someone afraid of your intentions and make them extremely uncomfortable. In fact, excessive contact can give the impression of being a stalker, which is clearly not an attractive trait. It also gives the impression that she is totally unable to see through a rather shallow facade, most girls are more intelligent than that.
The best cure is to meet a lot of girls. By doing this, it becomes easier to be comfortable around them and discover what some girls like and dislike. It can also help to develop some self-confidence, which is generally seen as an attractive trait. Being slightly harder to date can make someone seem more desirable, this is true for both genders.
Narrow mindedness scares girls, but take heart as it is possible to cure oneitis. Learning what different girls like and dislike helps the man to discover his own needs. Showing more confidence makes a man appear to be more charming and more attractive to potential partners.
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