You might feel horrible about your breakup and even feel like giving up on the thought of ever getting back together with your ex but did you know that there is always hope that you can get your ex back? Even if your ex is telling you to forget about it and that they're never going to come back, if it is your dream to win your ex back then you have been handed the opportunity to do just that in the form of this breakup that has hurt you so much. As crazy as all of this sounds, it is the truth.
It really doesn't matter what lead to your breakup, you can get back together just like all the other couples that reunite every day on this planet. There are couples out there that have probably been through more difficult breakups than what you and your ex have been through and they still managed to find love and get back together in spite of their circumstances. There are couples that have cheated on each other, been neglected and abused and said that they would never get back together who find themselves back in love with each other again. Why should you and your ex be so different? If you truly love your ex and you have even a little hope in your heart then working towards getting your ex back is in your future.
If you use this time apart in a constructive way and you remain steadfast in your determination to win your ex back then it will happen. On the other hand, if you spend this time apart being upset and angry and depressed about your breakup then you will find that your ex very well might feel vindicated in breaking up with you. Letting this breakup drag you down and allowing your life to take a downward spiral by drinking too much, not getting enough sleep and not taking care of yourself is not only a waste of time, it's not going to help you to get your ex back. Use this time wisely and start today to do the things that are going to make your ex want to get back together with you.
Spend some time in introspective thought. Allow yourself to honestly look at your part in the downfall of your relationship. Don't take all of the blame for your breakup but be honest with yourself about how you behaved and acted and how you contributed to the end of your relationship. Nobody is blameless. You share some blame and so does your ex but the only one that you can change is you. If you feel that you were impulsive and acted rashly at times, maybe read a few self help books to better understand why you act the way you do and why you react the way that you did. If you feel that you may have an anger problem or a drinking problem, get some help in these areas of your life for yourself and for your relationship in the future. This time is all about you improving yourself.
You will have some time on your hands and exploring what you want to do with your life and beginning to pursue those dreams is a step in the right direction towards improving yourself. Maybe take a look at some night courses at your local community college as you explore what might interest you in life. Learn a new language or plan a trip. Take up a hobby that you might have only dreamed about. Your dreams don't have to be huge but you should have dreams in your life that revolve around what you want. There needs to be change and this change can boost your self confidence.
It might be tempting from time to time to fall back into old patterns of behavior and want to be upset about your breakup but these emotions simply don't serve you. Make good use of your time doing something that will benefit you. If you find yourself alone and lonely, spend some time meditating or dreaming about what you want your life to be like. This is your time to rebuild your life. Your ex might expect you to self destruct but you're not going to give them that satisfaction. You are going to change and arise from the wreckage as a changed person that anyone would want to be with including your ex. When they see you next you want them to be shocked by how well you're doing and you want them to be proud of you. You don't want them to see some shriveled up mess that they once loved.
Beat back those negative thoughts that tell you that you should just move on. No matter how bad things may appear, things always change. Even if your ex has started seeing someone new, realize that it doesn't mean a thing and you can still win your ex back no matter how awful things might seem. Dream about getting your ex back and be patient with yourself and learn how to break down the wall that divides you and bring your ex back into your life exactly the way that you dream.
It really doesn't matter what lead to your breakup, you can get back together just like all the other couples that reunite every day on this planet. There are couples out there that have probably been through more difficult breakups than what you and your ex have been through and they still managed to find love and get back together in spite of their circumstances. There are couples that have cheated on each other, been neglected and abused and said that they would never get back together who find themselves back in love with each other again. Why should you and your ex be so different? If you truly love your ex and you have even a little hope in your heart then working towards getting your ex back is in your future.
If you use this time apart in a constructive way and you remain steadfast in your determination to win your ex back then it will happen. On the other hand, if you spend this time apart being upset and angry and depressed about your breakup then you will find that your ex very well might feel vindicated in breaking up with you. Letting this breakup drag you down and allowing your life to take a downward spiral by drinking too much, not getting enough sleep and not taking care of yourself is not only a waste of time, it's not going to help you to get your ex back. Use this time wisely and start today to do the things that are going to make your ex want to get back together with you.
Spend some time in introspective thought. Allow yourself to honestly look at your part in the downfall of your relationship. Don't take all of the blame for your breakup but be honest with yourself about how you behaved and acted and how you contributed to the end of your relationship. Nobody is blameless. You share some blame and so does your ex but the only one that you can change is you. If you feel that you were impulsive and acted rashly at times, maybe read a few self help books to better understand why you act the way you do and why you react the way that you did. If you feel that you may have an anger problem or a drinking problem, get some help in these areas of your life for yourself and for your relationship in the future. This time is all about you improving yourself.
You will have some time on your hands and exploring what you want to do with your life and beginning to pursue those dreams is a step in the right direction towards improving yourself. Maybe take a look at some night courses at your local community college as you explore what might interest you in life. Learn a new language or plan a trip. Take up a hobby that you might have only dreamed about. Your dreams don't have to be huge but you should have dreams in your life that revolve around what you want. There needs to be change and this change can boost your self confidence.
It might be tempting from time to time to fall back into old patterns of behavior and want to be upset about your breakup but these emotions simply don't serve you. Make good use of your time doing something that will benefit you. If you find yourself alone and lonely, spend some time meditating or dreaming about what you want your life to be like. This is your time to rebuild your life. Your ex might expect you to self destruct but you're not going to give them that satisfaction. You are going to change and arise from the wreckage as a changed person that anyone would want to be with including your ex. When they see you next you want them to be shocked by how well you're doing and you want them to be proud of you. You don't want them to see some shriveled up mess that they once loved.
Beat back those negative thoughts that tell you that you should just move on. No matter how bad things may appear, things always change. Even if your ex has started seeing someone new, realize that it doesn't mean a thing and you can still win your ex back no matter how awful things might seem. Dream about getting your ex back and be patient with yourself and learn how to break down the wall that divides you and bring your ex back into your life exactly the way that you dream.
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