So you want to get your girlfriend back? While you might love her very much and you might be afraid that if you do one more thing wrong that she's going to cut you out of her life for good, there's a good chance that you're being too nice to her.
A change has to be made and although this is going to be tough for you, it is simply something that you need to do. If you want her back then you need to put a stop to this relationship destroyer. I know you're going to fight it and your instinct is telling you that being nice to her and doing everything right will win her heart but there's a problem. The problem is that you are in the middle of the situation. You are so scared of losing her forever that your actions and thoughts are distorted. You might never be able to see the logic in this unless you try to remove yourself from the situation and see it from a different point of view.
While you are thinking that you're helping to get her back, you're actually changing her impression of you in her mind. You are thinking that she will think that you're nice when in actuality she is losing respect for you every day. It all works out well for her because she gets the ego boost of knowing that it doesn't matter that she hurt you and she doesn't have to feel bad about breaking your heart. She might apologize any time she feels bad but she knows that you will say that it's ok and that you forgive her because you're nice. In time she will be less than nothing to her and she will walk away unscathed while you do your best to put your life back together. She'll find someone else who turns her on and she'll make him be nice to her and it will all be because you boosted her ego so much in the wake of your breakup.
What you need to do is back off. You need to break ties with her and kill that image that she has inside her head of you from your breakup. You want her to begin to miss you and think back to how wonderful you were. You want her to become interested in you again and wonder if she made a terrible mistake. You want to become the one that got away. You want her to start chasing you instead of the other way around.
I know that it's going to be tough to resist the urge to contact her. You might even think that it's ok to keep that door open just a little bit by texting her a cute little hello every once in a while but you need to be strong. Any time you feel tempted find a reason to be angry about your breakup. Remember something that she said or did and forget about being nice and get mad. Allow that anger motivate you to do this and start the process of creating some confusion and mystery in her mind when it comes to your life. She hurt you and you need to be the most important person in the world to you right now. Respect yourself and she will come to respect you in time.
You might feel a lot of resistance at first. You might want to keep just a little bit of contact with her and let her know that you're still there because you're afraid but all of this is simple a must if you ever hope to get her back. If you ever expect her to fall in love with you again then she has to value you above everybody else that she knows. She has to have some respect for you as a person and a man. Wait until after she comes crawling back to you with tears in her eyes before you say a nice word to her. Make her make the first move. Hold your ground and you will find that getting your ex girlfriend back isn't all that difficult and you will be getting her back on your terms and not hers.
A change has to be made and although this is going to be tough for you, it is simply something that you need to do. If you want her back then you need to put a stop to this relationship destroyer. I know you're going to fight it and your instinct is telling you that being nice to her and doing everything right will win her heart but there's a problem. The problem is that you are in the middle of the situation. You are so scared of losing her forever that your actions and thoughts are distorted. You might never be able to see the logic in this unless you try to remove yourself from the situation and see it from a different point of view.
While you are thinking that you're helping to get her back, you're actually changing her impression of you in her mind. You are thinking that she will think that you're nice when in actuality she is losing respect for you every day. It all works out well for her because she gets the ego boost of knowing that it doesn't matter that she hurt you and she doesn't have to feel bad about breaking your heart. She might apologize any time she feels bad but she knows that you will say that it's ok and that you forgive her because you're nice. In time she will be less than nothing to her and she will walk away unscathed while you do your best to put your life back together. She'll find someone else who turns her on and she'll make him be nice to her and it will all be because you boosted her ego so much in the wake of your breakup.
What you need to do is back off. You need to break ties with her and kill that image that she has inside her head of you from your breakup. You want her to begin to miss you and think back to how wonderful you were. You want her to become interested in you again and wonder if she made a terrible mistake. You want to become the one that got away. You want her to start chasing you instead of the other way around.
I know that it's going to be tough to resist the urge to contact her. You might even think that it's ok to keep that door open just a little bit by texting her a cute little hello every once in a while but you need to be strong. Any time you feel tempted find a reason to be angry about your breakup. Remember something that she said or did and forget about being nice and get mad. Allow that anger motivate you to do this and start the process of creating some confusion and mystery in her mind when it comes to your life. She hurt you and you need to be the most important person in the world to you right now. Respect yourself and she will come to respect you in time.
You might feel a lot of resistance at first. You might want to keep just a little bit of contact with her and let her know that you're still there because you're afraid but all of this is simple a must if you ever hope to get her back. If you ever expect her to fall in love with you again then she has to value you above everybody else that she knows. She has to have some respect for you as a person and a man. Wait until after she comes crawling back to you with tears in her eyes before you say a nice word to her. Make her make the first move. Hold your ground and you will find that getting your ex girlfriend back isn't all that difficult and you will be getting her back on your terms and not hers.
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